When your child is threatening a meltdown in the grocery aisle, it really is possible to keep your cool, correct the behavior and reinforce healthy development, all at the same time. In this easy-to-read, science-based book, parents, caregivers and big people of all kinds will discover how discipline affects children's development, why intervention should reinforce connection not separation, and why the disciplinary strategies that may have been used on us as children are not the ones that children really need. In addition, you'll learn:
- How the concept of childhood" has been understood in different ways historically and why we must understand it anew today.
- How to work with your children's teachers and the other big people in their lives.
- The basic truth behind the mantra See it, feel it, be it."
- The foundation of a healthy, effective approach to discipline that respects your child's developmental needs and works!
As a practicing child and family psychologist and advisor to the BC ministry of children and families, Dr. Vanessa has seen it all and has she has navigated hundreds of tough situations with families. Drawing on scientific research and a wealth of clinical experience, she shows you how to put out the fire without dampening your child's spirits; how to correct their behavior while emphasizing connection; and how to discipline without damage.
Industry Reviews
"Every year, I read most of the parenting books that are published in English, and Discipline Without Damage: How To Get Your Kids To Behave Without Messing Them Up, by Dr. Vanessa Lapointe, is one of the five best parenting books that I've read in the past five years... I hope that this book makes it onto the short list of every parent. I think it can change the world."
?Dr. Laura Markham, PhD, Founding editor of AhaParenting.com and author of Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids
?In Discipline Without Damage, Dr. Vanessa Lapointe explores the important question of why we discipline rather than just how. We need to question the notion that the only way to raise happy, capable and caring future adults is to punish children when they don't behave according to our wishes. In fact, by showing that children really need kindness, fairness and a caring, safe environment, Dr. Lapointe has created a trustworthy resource for parents."
?Maggie Dent, Author of 9 Things: A Back-to Basics Guide to Calm, Common-sense, Connected Parenting Birth
?In this eloquent book, Dr. Lapointe makes a powerful case for disciplining our children without power struggles, manipulation or control. An insightful guide for all parents!"
?Dr. Shefali Tsabary, PhD, Author of the New York Times bestselling book The Conscious Parent
?This book is a must-read for all parents who know what feels right about disciplining their kids, but have been advised to do the opposite. Dr. Lapointe combines scientific theory with her wealth of experience working with children, and gives clear examples of how to put it all into practice. Read this book and see the results in your happy, well-adjusted child."
?Barbara Fitzgerald M.D. FRCP(C), Developmental pediatrician and Clinical associate professor, University of British Columbia
?I love this book! It's a rare combination of science-based, practical,
respectful, and effective discipline."
?Dr. Tina Payne Bryson, PhD, Co-author of the New York Times bestselling books The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline
?In Discipline without Damage, Dr. Lapointe shows why communication and connection are so important for our children. And why it is especially important for us adults to discipline ourselves so that we don't go down the path of disconnection in the name of good behavior. Read this book and discover creative ways to be with your children and respect them for who they are."
?Vikram Vij, Chef, sommelier, and co-owner of Vij's group of companies
"I am delighted to see a book that in theory and practice shows parents how to regulate their children's immature behaviors in constructive ways... If when we go to regulate our children's behavior we think, 'Do I want my child to grow up to treat others this way?' we will be much more inclined to use the techniques advocated in this book."
?Dr. Martha H. Pieper, PhD, Author of Smart Love: The Comprehensive Guide to Understanding, Regulating, and Enjoying Your Child
?Dr. Lapointe has given parents, family members and the professionals who work with them a wonderful gift. Discipline Without Damage should be required reading for us all. Written from a deep pool of experience and knowledge, this practical book helps us understand what children need to thrive."
?Dana Brynelsen, OBC, LLD, Former provincial advisor, Infant Development Program of BC
