Wiley PracticePlanners® Series Preface xv
Acknowledgments xvii
Introduction xix
Section I—Activity/Family Imbalance 1
Exercise I.A When Can We Be Together? 2
Section II—Addictions 3
Exercise II.A How Much Does It Cost? 4
Exercise II.B Staying Clean 8
Exercise II.C What Else Can I Do? 11
Exercise II.D Keeping Busy 13
Section III—Adoption 15
Exercise III.A This Is How I Feel 16
Exercise III.B My Safe Place 19
Section IV—Anger Management 20
Exercise IV.A Is It Passive, Aggressive, or Assertive? 21
Exercise IV.B Why Am I So Angry? 26
Exercise IV.C What Happens When I Become Angry? 28
Exercise IV.D I Don’t Have Any Bruises But I Still Hurt 31
Exercise IV.E Go Blow Out Some Candles 36
Section V—Anxiety 37
Exercise V.A It’s Us Against the Anxiety 38
Exercise V.B My/Our Daughter Is Afraid to Go to School 40
Exercise V.C When I Feel Anxious It Is Like . . . 42
Exercise V.D My Mother’s Anxiety Makes Me Feel . . . 45
Section VI—Behavioral Problems With Children and Adolescents 47
Exercise VI.A My Child Just Won’t Listen 48
Exercise VI.B Acting as If 52
Exercise VI.C We Have to Make Some Type of Agreement 55
Exercise VI.D Charting Our Course 58
Section VII—Bipolar 60
Exercise VII.A My Mom Just Won’t Stay on Her Medication 61
Section VIII—Blaming 65
Exercise VIII.A What Do I Say? What Can I Say? 66
Exercise VIII.B Don’t Look at Me, Ask Him 69
Exercise VIII.C The Blaming Jar 71
Exercise VIII.D What’s My Job? 73
Section IX—Blended Families 75
Exercise IX.A I Don’t Like It When You . . . 76
Exercise IX.B I Have Too Many Parents 80
Exercise IX.C We Need to Agree 85
Section X—Communication Problems 88
Exercise X.A How Can I Talk So He’ll Listen? 89
Exercise X.B Everything Is Always Negative in Our House 92
Section XI—Death/Loss Issues 93
Exercise XI.A Remember When . . . 94
Exercise XI.B Until We Meet Again, Love 97
Exercise XI.C The Questions, Feelings, Comments/Concerns Game 102
Section XII—Dependency 103
Exercise XII.A Dependency Go Away 104
Section XIII—Depression 106
Exercise XIII.A Do I Have To Be Depressed? 107
Exercise XIII.B My Positive Script 110
Exercise XIII.C Someone in My Family Is Depressed 113
Exercise XIII.D What Am I Thinking When I Am Feeling Depressed? 115
Exercise XIII.E What Do Others Value about Me? 117
Exercise XIII.F My/Our Daughter is Depressed 119
Section XIV—Disengagement/Loss of Family Cohesion 121
Exercise XIV.A Circles of Perception 122
Section XV—Eating Disorders 124
Exercise XV.A I Need to Get Control 125
Exercise XV.B What Am I Thinking? 128
Exercise XV.C Why Is She Doing This? 131
Section XVI—Estranged Family Members 133
Exercise XVI.A We’re No Longer Speaking to One Another 134
Exercise XVI.B I Miss You 136
Section XVII—Family Business Conflicts 139
Exercise XVII.A A Changing of the Guard 140
Exercise XVII.B Who Is Doing What? 142
Section XVIII—Family-of-Origin Interference 143
Exercise XVIII.A Thanks, But No Thanks 144
Exercise XVIII.B How Can I Tell Her to Mind Her Own Business? 146
Section XIX—Foster Care 147
Exercise XIX.A I Want to Go Home 148
Section XX—Geographic Relocation 150
Exercise XX.A We’re Moving 151
Exercise XX.B Should We or Should We Not? 153
Section XXI—Inheritance Disputes 155
Exercise XXI.A He Always Did Like You Best 156
Section XXII—Interracial Family Problems 157
Exercise XXII.A They’re Calling Me a Half-Breed 158
Section XXIII—Intolerance/Defensiveness 160
Exercise XXIII.A Before and After 161
Exercise XXIII.B Why Can’t You Understand My Side for Once? Part I 164
Exercise XXIII.C Why Can’t You Understand My Side for Once? Part II 166
Section XXIV—Jealousy/Insecurity 167
Exercise XXIV.A I Don’t Have to Be Jealous or Insecure Anymore 168
Exercise XXIV.B I Am Not Jealous 171
Section XXV—Life-Threatening/Chronic Illness 174
Exercise XXV.A Johnny Has Leukemia 175
Section XXVI—Multiple-Birth Dilemmas 176
Exercise XXVI.A With Seven You Get an Eggroll 177
Exercise XXVI.B How Are We Going to Do This? 179
Section XXVII—Pervasive Developmental Disorders 180
Exercise XXVII.A Knowing What to Expect 181
Section XXVIII—Physical Disabilities 182
Exercise XXVIII.A Why Is Dad in Bed All Day? 183
Section XXIX—Physical/Verbal/Psychological Abuse 184
Exercise XXIX.A What Is Okay and What Is Not Okay? 185
Section XXX—Religious/Spiritual Conflicts 187
Exercise XXX.A I Don’t Know What to Believe in Anymore 188
Section XXXI—Schizophrenia 190
Exercise XXXI.A My Brother Hears Voices 191
Section XXXII—School Problems 193
Exercise XXXII.A My Teenager Is Truant 194
Section XXXIII—Separation/Divorce 197
Exercise XXXIII.A My Parents Are Getting a Divorce 198
Section XXXIV—Sexual Abuse 200
Exercise XXXIV.A I Will Be a Survivor! 201
Exercise XXXIV.B Getting It Out 208
Exercise XXXIV.C I Gotta Stop Thinking This Way 213
Exercise XXXIV.D A Picture Is Worth a Thousand Words 215
Section XXXV—Sexual Preferences 219
Exercise XXXV.A I Am Still Danny 220
Section XXXVI—Suicide Attempts 221
Exercise XXXVI.A I Want Things to Be Better 222
Exercise XXXVI.B Creating a Positive Outlook 227
Section XXXVII—Unwanted/Unplanned Pregnancies 229
Exercise XXXVII.A Honey, Guess What? 230
References 233
About the Authors 235
About the Downloadable Assignments 237
