| Acknowledgments | p. x |
| Preface | p. xi |
| Introduction | p. 1 |
| Recognizing Abusive Behavior | |
| Identifying Abuse | p. 8 |
| Patterns of Domination and Control | p. 9 |
| The Domestic Violence Cycle | p. 9 |
| Types of Abuse | p. 11 |
| Emotional Abuse | p. 13 |
| Patterns of Emotional Abuse | p. 14 |
| Emotional Abuse Inventory | p. 31 |
| Physical Abuse | p. 33 |
| Patterns of Physical Abuse | p. 33 |
| Physical Abuse Inventory | p. 35 |
| Sexual Abuse | p. 37 |
| Patterns of Sexual Abuse | p. 37 |
| Rape | p. 38 |
| Incest and Other Sexual Abuse of Children | p. 39 |
| Sexual Abuse Inventory | p. 41 |
| Social Abuse | p. 42 |
| Patterns of Social Abuse | p. 43 |
| Social Abuse Inventory | p. 43 |
| Financial Abuse | p. 45 |
| Patterns of Financial Abuse | p. 45 |
| Financial Abuse Inventory | p. 46 |
| Religious and Spiritual Abuse | p. 48 |
| Patterns of Spiritual Abuse | p. 48 |
| The Misuse of Religious Doctrine | p. 48 |
| Religious and Spiritual Abuse Inventory | p. 50 |
| Learning About Abusers and Victims | |
| Recognizing Abusers | p. 52 |
| Characteristics and Attitudes of Abusers | p. 53 |
| Female Abusers | p. 57 |
| Abuser Inventory | p. 58 |
| Recognizing Danger Signals | p. 60 |
| Indicators of Potentially Dangerous Behavior | p. 61 |
| Potential Danger Inventory | p. 63 |
| Victims of Abuse | p. 65 |
| Myths About Victims of Abuse | p. 65 |
| Why Victims Stay in or Return to Abusive Relationships | p. 67 |
| Victim Dependencies | p. 77 |
| Mutual Dependency | p. 82 |
| Examining Your Reasons for Staying in or Returning to an Abusive Relationship | p. 83 |
| Specific Victim Circumstances and Concerns | p. 87 |
| Abusers with Money, Influence, and Power | p. 87 |
| Cultural Concerns | p. 90 |
| Male Abuse Victims | p. 93 |
| Victims in Rural Areas | p. 94 |
| Same-Sex Partners | p. 97 |
| Victims with Disabilities | p. 99 |
| Abuse During Pregnancy | p. 100 |
| Abuse at Different Ages | p. 102 |
| Abuse of Children | p. 102 |
| Adolescents, Teenagers, and Dating Violence | p. 110 |
| Abuse of Seniors | p. 114 |
| Preparing for Emergencies | |
| Violent Crisis and Emergency Situations | p. 118 |
| Emergency Plans and Safety Plans | p. 118 |
| If You Leave Home During a Crisis | p. 122 |
| Remaining at Home | p. 124 |
| Taking Care of Children in a Crisis | p. 127 |
| Avoiding Child Abduction | p. 128 |
| Hostage Taking | p. 129 |
| Stalking | p. 130 |
| The Legal Process | p. 133 |
| Civil and Criminal Courts and Protective Orders | p. 134 |
| Protective Orders | p. 135 |
| Criminal Court Procedures | p. 142 |
| Victim-Related Court Concerns | p. 143 |
| Mediation | p. 144 |
| Court Advocates | p. 145 |
| Attorneys | p. 147 |
| Federal Laws and Civil Lawsuits | p. 148 |
| Getting Help After a Crisis | |
| Getting Help Immediately After a Crisis | p. 152 |
| Medical Attention and Evidence | p. 152 |
| Support from Family and Friends | p. 155 |
| Community Resources and Shelters | p. 157 |
| Getting Help for the Longer Term | p. 160 |
| From Victim to Survivor | p. 160 |
| Keeping Safe After a Crisis | p. 161 |
| Money Matters | p. 163 |
| Immigration Help | p. 164 |
| Work Issues | p. 164 |
| Transportation Issues | p. 167 |
| Making the Decision to Stay or Leave | |
| Evaluating Your Relationship | p. 170 |
| The Examination Process | p. 170 |
| Restricting Abuser Communication | p. 174 |
| Abuser Assessment | p. 175 |
| Effects on Children | p. 176 |
| Assessing the Impact on You | p. 177 |
| Examination Do's and Don'ts | p. 178 |
| Evaluation Questions for Victims of Abuse | p. 180 |
| Planning for Change | p. 182 |
| Forming Realistic Expectations | p. 182 |
| Building Alternatives to Abuse | p. 183 |
| Making Goals and Plans | p. 185 |
| Rebuilding Your Sense of Self | p. 186 |
| Establishing Nonabusive Boundaries | p. 187 |
| Taking Action | p. 191 |
| Taking Action | p. 192 |
| The Decision to Stay or to Leave | p. 198 |
| Learning to Heal and Rebuild | |
| Healing and Rebuilding | p. 206 |
| Grief and Abuse | p. 206 |
| After Grief | p. 211 |
| Healing Strategies | p. 213 |
| Long-Term Rebuilding and Restoration Strategies | p. 218 |
| Counseling After Abuse | p. 221 |
| Why Seek Counseling? | p. 221 |
| Choosing a Counselor | p. 223 |
| Programs for Abusers | p. 225 |
| Couples Counseling | p. 228 |
| Depression | p. 231 |
| Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) | p. 233 |
| Remaining Abuse-Free | |
| Precautions for Your Protection | p. 236 |
| General Safety Precautions | p. 236 |
| New Dates and Acquaintances | p. 239 |
| New Relationships | p. 240 |
| Precautions for Seniors | p. 240 |
| Rape Safeguards | p. 242 |
| Safeguards to Avoid Child Abduction | p. 243 |
| Maintaining Your Life Free from Abuse | p. 246 |
| Establish and Maintain Financial Security | p. 247 |
| Know Your Legal Rights | p. 249 |
| Maintain Healthy Personal Behaviors | p. 252 |
| Maintain Individual Interests and Relationships | p. 256 |
| Teach Your Children Nonabusive Behavior | p. 266 |
| Welcoming a Life Without Abuse | p. 269 |
| A Heritage of Violence | p. 270 |
| Collaborating in Your Community | p. 274 |
| A Victim's Bill of Rights | p. 276 |
| Resources | p. 277 |
| Notes | p. 280 |
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