How We Love Our Kids
The Five Love Styles of Parenting
By: Kay Yerkovich, Milan Yerkovich
Paperback | 15 March 2011
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One small change in how you love; one big change in your kids
Having problems with your kids? What if you are the problem and you just can't see it? How We Love Our Kids offers a unique approach, to help you as a parent transform your kids by making specific changes in how you love. It's the only book specifically for parents that reveals the unseen forces that shape every interaction with your kids.
.Identify which of the five love styles you have.
.Discover the surprising dynamics that shape your parenting.
.Get rid of your "buttons" so your kids can't push them.
.Create a close connection with your kids that will last a lifetime.
.Learn the seven gifts every child needs.
Based on years of research in the area of attachment and bonding, How We Love Our Kids shows parents how to overcome the predictable challenges that arise out of the five love styles and helps parents cultivate a secure, deep connection with a child of any age. Retool your reactions and refocus on how you love. Start today. Watch your kids flourish and thrive as they receive what was missing in your love.
With four self-assessments and powerful application tools to use with children of all ages.
Industry Reviews
"Milan and Kay provide us with the tools of self-awareness which can enable us to consciously examine the love styles of the past and become conscious of the stored feelings and emotions that we carry forward into parenting. This book will now be one of my primary reading recommendations."
-Michael W. Shannon, MD
"Another home run for Milan and Kay Yerkovich!"
- Sherrie Eldridge, speaker and author of Twenty Things Adoptive Parents Need to Succeed
"After reading this book, our first thoughts were, Every parent needs to read this book-regardless of the ages of their children, and, Reading this book could not only protect children from the pains of growing up but also heal the parents' hearts. This book offers insightful, practical ways of understanding children and parenting. We recommend it."
-Roger and Becky Tirabassi, authors of Let Love Change Your Life
"This book is a true gift to parents who yearn to understand and communicate with their children, thus bringing about healing and restoration. Milan and Kay remind us that God is our perfect model for parenting. This book has touched my life, and I know it will touch yours too."
-Elizabeth John, MD
"Milan and Kay provide us an entirely new way of looking at parenting. Rather than focusing solely on the how-tos of parenting, they help us explore the powerful forces of our own upbringings on how we parent and provide a path to change those forces for good in the lives of our children. As a parent educator for over twenty-five years, I see this book as the resource we've been missing!"
-Laura Taggart, licensed marriage and family therapist
"Finally! A treatment of parenting that acknowledges the eight-hundred pound gorilla in the room: parents working out their personal issues on their children. If you want to transform your child's life, then let Milan and Kay gently, firmly, and skillfully guide you on this amazing journey of personal change."
-Kenny Luck, author of Soar, Fight, and Dream
"Imagine decreasing the drama in your home by simply learning how to comfort one another. How We Love Our Kids unfolds five distinct love styles in parenting-their traits, strengths, and pitfalls. The real-life stories allow us to see ourselves and how we naturally express ourselves to our children. Whatever blend of love styles is under your roof, Milan and Kay will show you the direct route to building deeper love, intimacy, and connection."
-Sheri Denham, PhD, MFT, and co-host of New Life Live
"If you've ever struggled with being a good enough parent, ever been triggered by your child's behavior in ways you'd be too embarrassed to recount, or ever compensated with your child to override your guilt, then you won't want to miss How We Love Our Kids!"
- Jill Hubbard, PhD, co-host of New Life Live and author of The Secrets Women Keep and The Secrets Young Women Keep
"Milan and Kay have given us great insights into how our own attachment issues affect our parenting styles. Every parent needs to read this book, regardless of the ages of their kids."
-David Stoop, PhD, author of Just Us and Forgiving the Unforgivable
Acknowledgments | p. ix |
Introduction: The Amazing Result of One Simple Change | p. 1 |
Helping Yourself as a Parent | |
The Miracle and the Mess | p. 9 |
What Determines How We Parent | p. 20 |
The Avoider Parent | p. 32 |
The Pleaser Parent | p. 49 |
The Vacillator Parent | p. 62 |
The Controller Parent | p. 79 |
The Victim Parent | p. 94 |
Helping Your Child | |
Helping Any Child | p. 111 |
The Avoider Child | p. 121 |
The Pleaser Child | p. 130 |
The Vacillator Child | p. 142 |
Controller and Victim Children | p. 152 |
Unique Children | |
The Introverted Child | p. 177 |
The Free-Spirited Child | p. 181 |
The Determined Child | p. 186 |
The Sensitive Child | p. 194 |
The Premature Child | p. 199 |
The Healing Journey for Parents and Children | |
The Gift of Insight | p. 211 |
The Gift of Comfort | p. 217 |
The Gift of Power | p. 226 |
The Gift of Frustration | p. 233 |
The Gift of Confession | p. 241 |
The Gift of Laughter | p. 249 |
The Gift of God: The Perfect Parent | p. 259 |
Appendix: Parent Toolbox | |
Comfort Circle for Parenting | p. 268 |
Soul Words | p. 269 |
Conversation Starters | p. 270 |
Positive Descriptive Words | p. 272 |
Listener Guide | p. 273 |
Speaker Guide | p. 276 |
Awareness and Reflection Skills | p. 278 |
For Further Study: Attachment Theory | p. 280 |
Notes | p. 283 |
Bibliography | p. 290 |
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ISBN: 9780307729248
ISBN-10: 0307729249
Published: 15th March 2011
Format: Paperback
Language: English
Number of Pages: 304
Audience: General Adult
Publisher: RANDOM HOUSE US
Country of Publication: US
Dimensions (cm): 0.1 x 0.1 x 0.1
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