In her professional life, Shary Hauer was a confident, successful, high-caliber executive coach who advised big-time corporate leaders around the globe-but her personal life was an entirely different matter. When it came to love, she was insecure, clingy, desperate, willing to do anything and everything to win and keep a man. Because without a man by her side, what good was she?In Insatiable, Hauer fearlessly chronicles her emotional journey from despair to hope, rejection to redemption, and self-hate to self-love, one man at a time. In candid detail, she relates what it is like to be trapped in the torturous cycle of love addiction-what it's like to be forever searching, needing, obsessing, scheming, and agonizing for love, suffering from a hunger that never ceases-and what it takes to break free of that cycle. An intimate, soul-baring tale that sheds much-needed light on one of the least understood and talked about addictions, Insatiable is the story of one woman's journey through the hellish, the humiliating, and the humbling in her single-minded pursuit of the most addictive drug of all: love.
Industry Reviews
"Insatiable is an extraordinary memoir. It is not only heartfelt, it brings to life a complicated disorder. Through Hauer's story we can really see what love addiction is and how painful it is. But this is more than a story about the problem, this is a story of recovery and redemption. I highly recommend this book. It is a must-read if you are struggling with this disorder or have a loved one who is suffering and need to know what to do."
-Susan Peabody, author of Addiction to Love
"Insatiable could be read as a cautionary tale: If you utterly lose your sense of self to another person, seek help now! And, yes, it is this, but much, much more. Written with clear and precise language, Hauer's memoir is a true testament to one woman's courageous spirit. Hauer beats the odds. Not only does she survive an emotionally destructive life, she blossoms into a self-actualized and powerful woman. From the first page, we are engaged with this narrator, rooting for her to succeed on her tumultuous, yet ultimately brave, journey."
-Sue William Silverman, author of Love Sick: One Woman's Journey through Sexual Addiction
"If you think love addiction is something strange and dramatic that only happens to other people-sick people, people with problems-then you should read Shary Hauer's intimate memoir. You will see that a love addict could be your boss, or your college roommate, or the girl next door . . . she could, in fact, be you."
-Ethlie Ann Vare, author of Love Addict: Sex, Romance, and Other Dangerous Drugs
"I swallowed it up in one sitting. Shary's story of love addiction, and how it grows from a rooted codependence in the world, is full of heart and harrowing pain. So many people will recognize themselves on its pages."
-Kerry Cohen, author of Loose Girl