Love, Infidelity, and Sexual Addiction

"Spot on - codependent perspective helpful 
The description of the addict-coaddict cycles really hit home, especially the part about the coaddict becoming overvigilant. That was me! I can't quite give up the idea that I might be able to control his behavior by reading his emails, questioning his every move, etc., but I feel I can get there after discussion with him about letting go. The best thing about this book is the theme of changing MY behaviors, not his. Decide what I can and cannot tolerate and stick to my guns. If he screws up, decide how I will deal with it. It was helpful too to read that it is important to make a decision (to stay or go) rather than wallowing in indecision forever. There is no right or wrong answer, but whether I stay in this relationship or not, I need to change my way of thinking in order to be stronger going forward. Obviously, I thought this book was helpful!"

"I did not realize that I have become coaddicted. 
I am angry, I was in a first marriage where I was determined not to become a coaddict and, I did NOT! I left and got help for the reasons why I loved too much... But, in working so hard in NOT being one in my second marriage AND taking the guilt my second husband put on me, knowing abouty first marriage, I believed him when he said the problem was ME... Kind of... But not deep down, so I worked harder to FIX him and HELP him and in trying to HELP HIM, I find, that I have done just that, become co addictive!! This book has opened my eyes! I am trying so hard now to LET GO AND LET GOD! I will refer back to this book often and plan to read other suggested reading also."