Passing Judgment

The Power of Praise and Blame in Everyday Life

By: Terri Apter

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Hardcover | 9 January 2018 | Edition Number 1

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320 Pages

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Do you know that praise is essential to the growth of a healthy brain? That experiences of praise and blame affect how long we live? That the conscious and unconscious judgments we engage in every day began as a crucial survival technique? Do you think people shouldn't be judgmental? But, how judgmental are you, and how does this impact your relationships? "Keenly perceptive" (The Atlantic) psychologist and writer Terri Apter reveals how everyday judgments impact our relationships, and how praise, blame, and shame shape our sense of self.

Our obsession with praise and blame begins soon after birth. Totally dependent on others, rapidly we learn to value praise, and to fear the consequences of blame. Despite outgrowing an infant's dependence, we continue to monitor others' judgments of us, and we ourselves develop what relational psychologist Terri Apter calls a "judgment meter," which constantly scans people and our interactions with them, and registers a positive or negative opinion.

In Passing Judgment, Apter reveals how interactions between parents and children, within couples, and among friends and colleagues are permeated with praise and blame that range far beyond specific compliments and accusations. Drawing on three decades of research, Apter gives us the tools to learn about our personal needs, goals and values, to manage our biases, to tolerate others' views, and to make sense of our most powerful, and often confusing, responses to ourselves and to others.

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"In her latest book, Terri Apter once again helps us to better understand ourselves and others... She illuminates and explains an often ignored aspect of relationships, that which is informed by the judgments driven by both negative and positive evaluations, even in our smallest interpersonal exchanges." -- Liba Taub, Professor of History and Philosophy of Science at University of Cambridge

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