Acknowledgments ix
Preface xi
Introduction 1
WEEK ONE YOU 9
Day One Shared Instincts 11
Day Two Snap Judgments 22
Day Three Default to the Negative 32
Day Four Best-Fit Thinking 40
Day Five Friend, Enemy, Sexual Partner, or Indifferent 49
Day Six Moods and Emotions 59
Day Seven The Spice of Life 73
WEEK TWO RELATIONSHIPS 85
Day Eight Relationships Are Dyadic 87
Day Nine Opposites Attract 95
Day Ten BFFs 105
Day Eleven Enemies 114
Day Twelve Indifference 125
Day Thirteen Moods Are Contagious 132
Day Fourteen The Four Stages of Relationship 141
WEEK THREE TRIBE 151
Day Fifteen We Are Tribal 153
Day Sixteen Tribal Nurture 161
Day Seventeen Hierarchy 168
Day Eighteen Tension 176
Day Nineteen Values 187
Day Twenty Diversity 196
Day Twenty-One Changing Tribes Is Expensive 206
WEEK FOUR NEW YOU 215
Day Twenty-Two Suspend Judgment 217
Day Twenty-Three Be Curious 225
Day Twenty-Four Open Your Heart 235
Day Twenty-Five Give 243
Day Twenty-Six Manage Your Disappointment 250
Day Twenty-Seven Values Trump Rules 257
Day Twenty-Eight Expand Your Tribe 267
Conclusion 275
Further Reading and Resources 278
About the Author 282
Index 283
