Why Does He Do That? : Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men - Lundy Bancroft

Why Does He Do That?

Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

By: Lundy Bancroft

Paperback | 2 September 2003 | Edition Number 1

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"He doesn't mean to hurt me-he just loses control."
"He can be sweet and gentle."
"He's scared me a few times, but he never hurts the children-he's a great father."
"He's had a really hard life..."
Women in abusive relationships tell themselves these things every day. Now they can see inside the minds of angry and controlling men-and change their own lives. In this groundbreaking book, a counselor shows how to improve, survive, or leave an abusive relationship, with:
  • The early warning signs
  • Nine abusive personality types
  • How to tell if an abuser can change, is changing, or ever will
  • The role of drugs and alcohol
  • What can be fixed, and what can't
  • How to leave a relationship safely
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Praise for Lundy Bancroft and Why Does He Do That?

"Bancroft has opened a window into the thinking of abusive men, and his book helps open a door out of abusive relationships."--Gavin de Becker, New York Times bestselling author of The Gift of Fear and Fear Less

"Most books about abuse in relationships focus on women--how they're hurt, why they stay. As important as these questions are, they can also distract us from the heart of the problem. Bancroft boldly asks--and brilliantly answers--the most important questions of all: Why do so many men abuse women? What can be done about it? This book is desperately needed and long overdue."--Jackson Katz, creator of the award-winning video Tough Guise: Violence, Media and the Crisis in Masculinity

"This fascinating investigation into what makes abusive men tick is alarming but its candid handling of a difficult subject makes it a valuable resource for professionals and victims alike...Jargon-free analysis is frequently broken up by interesting first-person accounts and boxes that distill in-depth information into simple checklists. Bancroft's book promises to be a beacon of calm for many storm-tossed families."--Publishers Weekly

"Bancroft, a former codirector of Emerge, the first U.S. program for abusive men, and a 15-year veteran of work with abusive men, reminds readers that each year in this country, two to four million women are assaulted by their partners and that at least one out of three American women will be a victim of violence by a husband or boyfriend at some point in her life. His valuable resource covers early warning signs, ten abusive personality types, the abusive mentality, problems with getting help from the legal system, and the long, complex process of change...This is essential reading for those in the helping professions and highly recommended."--Library Journal

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